Cru’s Letter

Imagine how hard it would be to treat someone like gold if they lied to you all the time and constantly set you up for failure…

That’s what so many people face in their relationship with themselves.

We all want to love ourselves but looking in the mirror can be pretty harsh if you’re on the back end of outsourcing pain to your later self for years.

“I’ll get fit later”

“I’ll be disciplined later”

“I’ll stop drinking later”

“I’ll find a healthy relationship later”

These are the kind of statements that set you up for self-distaste because it’s a habit of valuing yourself less and less. When you give yourself effort, you feel valued and cared for (just like if someone else spent their time and energy on making you better). When you put your own growth and self-care on the back burner, it’s a subconscious cue to respect yourself less.

So, what do you do if you find yourself with a pile of data that says, “I don’t respect myself?”

Unsatisfying answer: You treat yourself like gold even when you feel like you don’t deserve it because here’s the thing… your self image is data driven and the only way you can overcome a negative self image is by inputting so much good data that your perception of yourself changes for the better.

Think of it like this:

100 days of eating unhealthy and sleeping past your alarm needs 100 days of clean eating and obeying the alarm to remedy it. Now, realistically, it won’t take a 1:1 ratio of time to overcome some bad data but you might as well buckle in as if that were the case.

Generally, what I want you to realize is that loving and respecting yourself isn’t impossible even if that feels like the case. It’s not a lottery or luck of the draw. It’s a decision to do the work it takes to become better.

-Cru

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