Cru’s Letter

Your identity is made of three things:

In other words, those three categories are the data behind your self image.

I’ve coached a lot of people over the years and a trend I consistently see is people feeling like they have no idea why they don’t respect themselves as much as they could, don’t feel confident, etc. Now, there’s honestly nothing worse than having a problem that you don’t understand because when you don’t understand it, you can’t really change it.

That said, I want to tell you about a client of mine, Marc, who has made significant strides in his life physically and mentally over the last year through understanding this “data” framework.

Time and time again, Marc has shown up to his daily routines, workouts, meal prep, and constant mental work that it takes to be a high “performing” and deep thinking person.

A big hurdle he’s had to overcome is the fear of doing “less” to create room for the life he really wants to carry out. As a doctor, he has spent a majority of his life reaching the top of the professional mountain through identifying with performance. Performance is a pretty popular identity because so many people learn to earn love and respect from their parents through their grades and eventually, career.

Marc has worked so hard to reframe his perspective on what makes him valuable and the resistance he faces in “leveling up” doesn’t actually come from an inability to show up to the hard things. It’s to admit that the space he creates and mental work he does is more valuable than just accepting another prestigious job.

We’ve had countess conversations about what seems to be in his way and it all comes back to the weight of the identity. Having spent most of his life with a very specific way of earning praise and self-value, you can imagine how hard it is to make the “identity leap” even when your lifestyle is reflective of the new identity.

What’s been the solution here?

Time.

It takes time for enough data to overtake a past identity and there’s no need to rush because when the new identity is created, it’ll stick.

So what Marc has been able to do is mix two very important characteristics…

The willingness to outwork a comfortable past-self AND be patient.

If you don’t like WHO you are… you can change that. The change is found in the WHAT. What you think, what you do, and what happens to you. You can’t always control what happens to you but your actions are completely up to you.

-Cru

P.S. If you feel stuck like Marc did a year ago, I want to help you change that. Learn about my 1:1 mentorship and book a consultation call here.