Here's the biggest problem with becoming better

Cru’s Letter

You’re a mirror.

Not the kind you hang on the wall but the kind that exposes other people’s shortcomings. Surely you don’t mean it but it’s not really in your control. You’re a mirror because as someone trying to do the REAL work, you’re showing other people what they don’t have the courage to do.

It’s beautiful that some people appreciate seeing their reflection but I wouldn’t say most do. I say all this to explain that being a better version of yourself is AWESOME but comes with some responsibilities…

Your excellence can be threatening to people’s comfort zones and guess what… they hate that shit.

So what should you do?

Try to surround yourself with people that don’t shy away from a challenge. An uphill battle makes you great at hiking but when it comes to your close circles, an uphill battle might be a misaligned use of your energy.

Being around folks that have different ideas and perspectives is super healthy but finding similarity in a desire to get better is massively important. This way, your ambition is complementary to them instead of offensive.

As someone in the top 1% of any category (health, mindset, communication), you have to become multilingual. I don’t mean you need to go learning mandarin or something (or you could do that too lol) but what I mean is that you have to be able to communicate with all kinds of different people with different upbringings, emotional responses, and communication styles. It’s important to build this skillset because your energy is valuable and doesn’t deserve to be wasted on silly misunderstanding. Thing is, your pursuit of becoming extraordinary is literally asking to be less understood so that’s why it’s pivotal.

You’re going to inevitably come across folks that are a bit abrupt and straightforward… you need to know how to navigate that kind of personality. You’ll also interact with the super sensitive folks… you should be adaptable and skillful when it comes to communicating in a way that’ll resonate.

It’s not to say you should go around substantially changing your personality and being inauthentic but there is a pretty nuanced art to communicating in a favorable way.

I’d like to point out that a focus on these fine details is not very common. Becoming a master of your environment is one of the most valuable things you could do and the only cost is observation. Yep, paying attention is literally free.

Also, let me remind you that the responsibilities you take on as a high-functioning person can be heavy but I promise you those are the responsibilities you want.

-Cru

P.S. One language you should NOT become fluent in is what I call “careful culture” or in other words, the art of being offended at everything…

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