Cru’s Letter

You suck.

You’re not cut out for it.

Everyone else is better than you.

Of course you failed.

After reading that, do you like me very much? Would you want to do something kind or courageous for me? Would you show up day in and day out to make my life better?

If I had to guess, the answer is no.

I imagine hearing that would make you want to prove me wrong from a place of resentment but the resentment wouldn’t allow you to.

So, if hearing those things makes me the enemy in your mind, why would it be any different when you talk shit to yourself?

It wouldn’t.

This is the paradox of the self relationship. The people with the biggest ambitions are the ones that critique themselves the most and halt their potential because of it.

When you talk down to yourself, the part of you that receives the insult will turn on the part that dished it out. This is where self-destructive behavior comes from because like I mentioned before, you’re not gonna show up as your best for someone who doesn’t deserve it.

You have to be encouraging to yourself and that doesn’t mean your mind will always feel like sunshine and rainbows but it does mean that you conclude your frustrations on your own team.

Your expectations should be high because I know you want to achieve amazing things but you just need to make sure that inner critic comes from a place of empathy first.

Now, back to where we started…

You suck. → You deserve better.

You’re not cut out for it. → It won’t happen overnight.

Everyone else is better than you. → Everyone else is not me.

Of course you failed. → Failure is only defining if it makes you quit.

You got this.

-Cru

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